When an LGBTQ youth is in the process of ‘coming out’ his/her friends are sometimes their only and most important source of support. Your friend is no different now than he/she was in the past and now is when your help and support is most needed.
Allies can be teachers, guidance counsellors, principals, coaches, doctors, nurses, social workers, ministers, parents, youth workers, etc.
Allies are people who recognize the unearned privilege they receive from society’s patterns of injustice and take responsibility for changing these patterns. Allies include men who work to end sexism, white people who work to end racism, heterosexual people who work to end heterosexism, able-bodied people who work to end ableism, and so on. Part of becoming an ally is also recognizing one’s own experience of oppression. For example, a white woman can learn from her experience of sexism and apply it in becoming an ally to people of colour, or a person who grew up in poverty can learn from that experience how to respect others’ feelings of helplessness because of a disability.
Becoming an Ally is about a resource that can provide you with further support, it seeks out the roots of racism, sexism, and all the other forms of oppression that divide us–in history, political/economic structures and our individual psychology. It suggests ways to change, particularly through becoming allies of oppressed peoples when we are in the role of oppressor.
As an ally you can stand up against hate and intolerance whenever you see it, at school, at work, in the community, etc. You’ll provide hope for lesbian, gay, bi, trans, questioning and other youths by letting them know that they have Love, Acceptance and Support.